Dear hopeless99,

Many women have sexy thoughts or dreams about other women. Sometimes these dreams mean a woman is lesbian or bisexual, and sometimes they don't. Only time will tell. Sexual orientation — being lesbian, bisexual, gay, or straight — is about sexual attraction. It can take years to understand our sexual orientation. Each of us has to answer these questions for ourselves, but it may take time before we can answer.

So many people, young and older, have questions about their sexual orientation that there is actually a name for them. Many identify themselves and are identified by others as "questioning." People who are attracted to people of both genders sometimes call themselves bisexual. No one knows for sure what makes men and women lesbian or gay, bisexual or heterosexual. Sexual orientation develops naturally — perhaps even before birth.

Although sexual orientation may seem to shift for some people in the course of a lifetime, it is not something that people can decide for themselves or others.

So, it's completely okay to be wondering about your sexuality. There are some resources at OutProud that may help you sort through some of your feelings.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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